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June 18, 2010

Too Nice For My Own Good

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: , , , — marathonmaiden @ 12:00

Ever read that book? Alexander and the Horrible Terrible No Good Very Bad Day? (or something like that).  Well that’s how my Thursday went.

Or I shouldn’t really say that because nothing went totally bad.  Just everything was off enough to put me in a bad mood.  I was pissed off enough to skip a Celtics viewing party and watch the game wrapped up under my covers.  Which made it even sadder because they lost.  Boo.

I’m not going to recap the whole day (who wants to read about all complain-y-ness?) but I do want to share more about this whole mentoring thing because I’m not quite sure what I’m getting myself into anymore.

Oh no.  Yup. She’s a helicopter parent.  That woman stopped me again (this is time #3 in 4 days and would have been #4 if I hadn’t blown right by her on one of my Wednesday runs). It’s getting to the point where I want to change my running routine in terms of timing or routes.

Now, I don’t have anything against meeting with her daughter and doing the whole “exposure to running” thing but this mom is effing crazy.  Every time she stops me it’s a 15+ minute conversation because I’m too GD nice to do anything.  I do eventually sneak a peak at my watch and she gets the hint but UGH.  And I really do want to give her daughter a chance.  I know that if I were judged by my parents….well let’s just say I would never want that to happen.

What made me really uncomfortable, however, was the fact that she mentioned paying me.  On one hand, I’m like “effing take it MM!” because I’m really effing poor.  But I think that I’m going to end up declining (too GD nice again) because I think it would make any sort of contact with the girl awkward.  Like, your mom is paying me for this.  Not what I want and it makes me more coach than role model.  But still, not going to lie: the appeal of the money is soooooooooo tempting.

She asked me for my number, which I expected her to do eventually, and said that SHE’D call me.  Not the girl.  Her.  I hinted at the fact that the girl should call me to chat but I’m clearly not an aggressive person and I’m awkward so who knows what will happen. I gave her my family landline and have taped a sticky to the phone that if she calls to take her fill name and number (because, while I know the girl’s name, I do not know hers…or her last name. Sketch) but DO NOT GIVE OUT MY CELL.  I even wrote “she’s effing crazy”  on the note.  Probably the smartest thing I’ve done.

Again, I still really do want to meet with the girl.  Crazy parent aside I think that all young girls (and boys) should have as many different types of people in their lives and diversity to expose them to many ideas and, like Rebecca said, instill passion.  Yes that might sound idealistic but running can be a vehicle for many different things (hello my life!). And even if she doesn’t want to commit to anything ever running wise in her life I think that it’ll be fun and nice for her.  Hell I wish I had SOMEONE to look up to growing up.  Someone that I could be like “I want to be like you in X number of years”

Whew that was one long rant-y thing hahah. Moving along…

Anyway the rest of my day was filled with the random annoyances: not enough time to do things, taking 2 hours to drive to my class which is 18 miles away thus being an hour late (!), running out of gas on I-95 (major highway) and slicing open my finger with a can while making dinner.  Fun stuff let me assure you.

But regardless of the other stuff in my day I did get a good run in.  Despite the 21 mile epic-ness of Wednesday (which thanks for all the positive comments.  As much as it felt great to do it it definitely won’t be any sore of regular occurrence! But I like knowing that I can do it 🙂 )I woke up feeling good.  The legs were a touch sore but, if I remember correctly, I’ve never been really sore after my LRs.  I was a bit extra tired and groggy Thursday morning but I’m blaming that on the accumulated sleep debt I’m in as my days get longer with studying. I mean I could do stuff like stretch, ice and foam roll buttttttt….enough said there 😉

The run was on-par with what I’ve been doing lately in terms of pacing which made me happy.  The first mile was very rough and sluggish and junk.  But that’s also on par with what I’ve been doing lately.  Strong finish? Yup that too.

Well maybe not a 100% finish strong.  From ~50% – 75% of the way through the run my legs were tired.  I don’t think my pace changed at all, at in the end even if it did the effect wasn’t great on the overall pace, but I just noticed them more.  They were *there*.  But of course I had run 21 freaking miles the day before.  And with that final quarter kick I’m willing to forgive my legs for the mishap 😉

Because it’s so much fun to finish strong.  Seriously.  It’s like, what now? I’m powerful. I’m fierce. Bring it life.

I effing LOVE Tyra. Well I guess it's more love/hate hah

And then sometimes, in the case of Thursday, life does bring it 😛

But the weekend is looking good:

  • Friday (today I guess) is my bro (K5)’s birthday.  (I suppose this is a double edged sword because Saturday night he’s having 5 friends sleep over.  Did I mention that he’s 14? UGH. ) And I’ve already gotten in a strong lifting session.  Sure because my body is still a little “off” (aka sleep deprived) I lowered the weights a bit — just by one dumbbell thingy — and I felt really good with it and my muscles felt that burning-but-not-dying feeling.  And I plan on getting a good 6-7 miler in later.  The temps are rising so it’ll be time to head out in a sports bra and work some more on that tan (SO BAD I know!)
  • Saturday I’m running with Jess while she’s in Boston.  The weather is suppose to be VERY nice and SUMMER.  I’m really excited to meet her! She’s taking a fun trip here and she’ll also be very likely kicking my booty in a major way when we run.  I’m secretly hoping that my usual buddy-MO pops up: faster = easier but who knows.  It’ll be fun regardless.

Sure I’ll also be studying mucho but it’s very hard to be in a pissy mood when good things are happening.

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    Duder, I know you want to be nice, but this lady sounds like high maintenance hell. Also, zero social skills – who stops a runner while she’s running? Multiple times? Fortunately, I think you have a splendid excuse: you’d be happy to chat once with the girl, but you are really very busy with studying/work/whatever make something up and can’t do this on a regular basis. Boom!
    Also, mad jealous that you get to run with Jess. That’s like a celeb blogger run.

    Comment by sarah — June 18, 2010 @ 12:13

  2. Yeah that mom seems a little psycho! I would totally take the money 😉

    Comment by Matt — June 18, 2010 @ 12:30

  3. Crazy ass mom. The least you can do for yourself, if you get caught up in her craziness, is let her pay you! Though, I would second Sarah’s comment…stay the eff away.

    Comment by pen — June 18, 2010 @ 15:25

  4. I agree with the other comments she sounds really rude to keep harrassing you.. I would be getting really mad by now. But if you do do it I would definately take the money.

    Comment by Laura — June 18, 2010 @ 15:41

  5. So is she basically hunting you down every day? I’m picturing her standing on a street corner for hours waiting for you to run by….haha…can someone say stalker? I hope for your sake her daughter is normal. Enjoy your weekend & your run w/ Jess….how awesome!

    Comment by Jenny — June 18, 2010 @ 16:41

  6. Boys at the age of 14 are horrific. Straight up horrific! My brother was a bit of a terror… so I wish you luck with that group!

    Comment by Amy @ Second City Randomness — June 18, 2010 @ 17:16

  7. Oh boy. One stop would have been one thing, but yeah… she’s crazy. You were smart not to give out your cell number because I have a feeling once she starts calling, she won’t stop. Poor daughter…

    Hope you have a better day today. If it makes you feel any better, I got all the way home from work only to discover I left my keys there and had to go back to get them. Argh!

    Comment by Chelsea — June 19, 2010 @ 06:55

  8. You ARE too GD effing nice. 😉 But I also think that you will be rewarded for it. This woman is just kind of annoying and persistent, but if the daugher is willing, I know you’ll reap great benefits out of it yourself, esp because I can see that running is a passion for you, and there must be some kind of achievement in instilling that on others, too!

    As for the money issue,if it’s gonna be a regular thing that takes up a good chunk of your time, you should take the money, for the sake of yourself, and for the mother and daughter’s conscience, too. 🙂

    Comment by sophia — June 19, 2010 @ 08:34

  9. At this point, you either a) blow them both off (you won’t b/c you are too nice) or b) view it as a coaching job and take the loot. Clearly, you know enough to help her. Selfishly, you could use the scratch and it would look solid on your med school applications. This way you can set up some ground rules with the mother (psycho) – have her contact you only at xx:xx, you’ll meet xx days per week, etc. Turn something completely inappropriate into a positive for you and help the kid out too — God knows she needs to escape that insane mother.

    Comment by a marathoner — June 19, 2010 @ 10:36

  10. If you do it, take the money. That way you won’t hate it as much, might even appreciate it since it’s a paying gig. If you do it for free, you’ll resent it and they’ll feel it and you’ll feel guilty and bad about feeling bad. Not worth it.

    Comment by Flo — June 19, 2010 @ 13:23

  11. When I helped the girl with bball a few summers ago, the reason I did it was because I knew the father from work. He was actually my boss and I was afraid about taking money from him. BUT i didn’t ask for the money and I didn’t say any specific amount so whatever he gave me was like an added bonus for working with the girl and mentoring her. I am sure you will get a chance to sit down with the girl before you run and get to know her. It depends on how you feel about this, but taking money is not a uncommon thing in this case – its like tutoring. You are helping her with running, etc. Give it a chance and see how it goes.

    Comment by J — June 19, 2010 @ 15:48

  12. Sounds like an awkward situation, but you are being super nice about it. I think it is smart to just see how it goes. If nothing else, you can say you tried to help the girl and it just didn’t work out.

    Sounds like a rough day! Hope the studying is going well and that you had a better weekend!

    Comment by Emily — June 20, 2010 @ 17:25

  13. Okay, Mini-Me, time for some advice. Honestly, I’m too nice, too! So, here’s what you do- blame it on the training. Yep, next time she tries to stop you, say that you have to “keep your heart rate up” and keep moving, so could her daughter just call you?

    As far as the money- DO NOT TAKE IT, at least at first. Tell her you’d like to just do the “mentoring” thing. Maybe run casual with the daughter and chat it up. LATER, if you want it to be something more, something on a regular basis, then reapproach the money situation. By what I’ve read, she’s likely try to force the money on you, so tell her to give it (X#) of weeks and then you will discuss it again. If she really is psycho, you don’t want to be in a situation where she’s paid you and they are all crazy acting.

    Comment by Rebecca — June 20, 2010 @ 17:55

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